Monday, May 14, 2007

tips for safe and sound online dating

Tips for Safe and Sound Online Dating ::


Here are some tips following which may help you in safe and sound online dating.


Start slow.:: While dating over the net, watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Begin by first communicating solely via email. Be on the lookout for odd behavior or inconsistencies. "Listen" to your correspondent's words. The person at the other end may not be who or what he/she says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.

Guard your anonymity.:: Never include your last name, real email address, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your profile or initial emails you exchange with other members. Make sure your email signature file is turned off, or does not include identifying information, when corresponding with a member via your own email.

Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for this information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it. Take all the time you need to become comfortable with someone before revealing any personal contact information. Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective.

Exercise caution and common sense:: Careful, well-thought decisions generally lead to better results in dating, and this is certainly true with online dating too. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy. Any suitor must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Your job is to take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person, and pay careful attention along the way.

Take a relatively conservative approach to trusting anyone you meet online. If you think someone is lying, it is likely that they are, so act accordingly. Move on to someone you can eventually trust. Conduct yourself and your romances in a responsible manner. Don't fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don't become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online.

Request a photo. A photo will give you a good idea of the person's appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent. In fact, it's best to view several images of this person in a variety of settings: casual, formal, indoor, outdoors. If he or she continuously comes up with an excuse, it may be because that person has something to hide. Getting a photo scanned is not expensive, so there is little excuse for not doing it.

3 comments:

Alvin Yudistira said...

Friend, you gave wonderful, useful, precise and thorough online dating tips. God bless you with sucess and hapiness.

Haveavoice said...

I think for women you are overdoing it and being a fear monger and you're shooting GOOD men in the foot with your advice.

Its hard enough getting to meet most decent women in a SAFE, PUBLIC PLACE without all the "be SCARED, be VERY AFRAID" stuff.

Yeah- anyone would agree to being safe and cautious but there comes a time to put your foot out there and do it. I'd have respected your post much more had you simply recommended that a course in the martial arts should be a prerequisite to all singles considering dating.

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